Narcissism in Families: Signs and Safety

Although only 1% of individuals are diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), it is estimated that roughly 15-20% of the population might have NPD.  This means that roughly one person in every household has NPD, making it more common than many people realize. 

NPD can destroy families from the inside out by sowing distrust, self-loathing, substance abuse, control issues and more.  Knowing the signs of NPD is vital to keeping yourself safe. 

Common signs of unhealthy narcissism are gaslighting, triangulation and playing the victim.  Narcissists are skilled manipulators, whether it be through love-bombing or the silent treatment.  Although these tactics can feel overwhelming, it is possible to pull yourself back from a narcissistic relationship. 

If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, it might be time to develop an escape plan.  To safely separate yourself, you must start planning, go slow and take action.  In terms of planning, it is important to plan when you are alone.  Make arrangements for your safety, such as moving your money to a separate account.  As you plan, it is important to maintain your normal routine so you do not alert the narcissist to potential changes. 

When the time comes to escape, make sure you let your friends and family know your plan.  It is also important to remember that you can contact the authorities if you do not feel safe to leave on your own. Another important contact to have is a good Family Lawyer who can provide legal advice and help.

NPD can cause severe damage to relationships, and is likely more common than we realize.  Educating yourself on the signs of NPD, as well as knowing what to do if you find yourself in an unsafe situation, is key to protecting yourself.